Fall is my favorite season of the year. The colors and the crisp air are so rejuvenating for me. It also signifies that cold weather is coming, which can bring about some dread on my part because I really don’t like cold. Fall is a transition time which mirrors the transitions in our lives. Transitions are a time of joy and a time of
rough waters. We experience many emotions during any time of transition and transitions of the seasons also bring different feelings and moods and even a nudge for change.
Have you been feeling restless, not sleeping well and maybe, well, just maybe a little out of sorts? You may feel like you want to
change what you are doing , your job, even your career and somehow feeling that where you are just isn’t right.
Perhaps some of your physical conditions are flaring up and you are wondering why because you’ve done everything to manage how you feel and your body’s health. Even things as simple as needing to move furniture around, clean out closets or decorate also signify that you are ready for change and are in some type of transition.
It’s natural at this time of year to experience symptoms of transition. We are letting go of the summer energy of growth and sunshine and moving into fall, shifting into different weather patterns and in some cases, different work and everyday tasks.
Last week, one night I woke up just feeling like I was totally ungrounded and even feeling a little ‘woozy.’ And I’m sure you are wondering this – no I didn’t have any alcohol. I didn’t feel connected in my body.
This ungrounded feeling can come whenever you are going through a personal transition or experiencing the transition of the seasons and the earth. You will even sense it when people around you are going through transition.
It’s not a comfortable feeling. Over the years, I’ve been through many transitions, from changing jobs, careers and where we live to becoming empty-nesters, losing loved ones to helping with parents and grandchildren. All require focus to navigate the transition.
There are several things you can do to support yourself when you feel you are in transition. These are things I use to calm down and regain my focus when I am feeling that my foundation is shifting yet again.
1. Walk outside on the grass, on the beach, in the mountains – wherever you can touch the ground will help. One of the things I do when I have a break from a really busy day is to take a short walk and lean up against a tree trunk when I am checking email on my phone. Maybe that defeats the purpose of being outside, however, that little bit helps me re-center my energy for the rest of the day.
2. Drinking a lot of water will help your brain function better and might help you think more clearly about your transitions.
3. Develop a sitting or meditation practice. This is simply sitting in a quiet comfortable place for 20 – 30 minutes and focusing on your breath. The goal is to clear your mind as much as possible. Most of us have constant chatter in our heads so if you can clear your mind, even for a nanosecond, it starts to work to calm you inside. I light a small candle and focus my attention on it while saying something like “Breathe in, breathe out” to keep my mind from wandering. A daily meditation practice will change your life in ways you can’t yet understand. You’ll find yourself with less stress and being less reactive as well as increased focus.
One of the most important benefits of a sitting practice is that you start to speak and make decisions from the core of your being – from who you really are, instead of who you think you should be.
That’s a game-changer, which brings me back to the topic of this article. If you are feeling the symptoms of transition, you are being called to step up to another level in your life. You can resist and find reasons to avoid your inner voice or you can make a commitment to a sitting/meditation practice and let the changes unfold more naturally and with ease.
Enjoy the fall wherever you are and lean in to the transitions that are in your life. If you are feeling restless, know you need a change and are not sure where to go or where to start, I have programs and coaching that can guide you. On November 15 – 17, 2013, I am leading a women’s retreat for you to create direction and focus for the balance of 2013 and all of 2014. See my events page for more details and my website for more programs on navigating transitions.